Then there is the part where you're telling marginalized people that they need to claim unmariginalized people, too, just because the unmarginalized people aren't total assholes. Yeah, no, that isn't how this works. Allies are awesome and I love them, but the idea that someone not being an asshole gives them membership privileges to a group they don't belong in? No. Just. no. Yes, I know that the A in the Alphabet Soup originally stood for Allies. Just because that is the way it has been used historically doesn't make it right.